I am the one who must set the bar as far as how our family interacts. My resolution is think positive thoughts about each family member as I encounter them and before I interact with them. I have enjoyed wonderful changes in my teenaged daughter through this process. I made a list of all the things about her that I love. That helped me to remember good thoughts when things are difficult. I gave her a copy of the list and that helps her remember that someone is noticing good things. With a teen it is easy for all conversations to become negative judgements...You are late. You are not going to wear that are you? Your room is a mess. You skipped school. You are going to fail if you don't try- etc.. It has really improved her outlook and mine to remember the good things. I see great things for her now and I was in a negative place about her filled with concern and worry, anger, disappointment. Now things are much better.Try it... You might like it!